Just The Basics
Published: September 5, 2017
Genre: Science Fiction, Romance, LGBT
Pages: 373
Acknowledgements: Flicker Tale Children's Book Award for Older Readers Winner 2021
"But no matter what choices we make - solo or together - our finish line remains the same… No matter how we choose to live, we both die at the end".
"They Both Die at The End" is a science fiction-LGBT romance novel told from a collection of first person narratives, all surrounding a new service called Deathcast. Deathcast calls every person at midnight on the day they will die, with totally accuracy, however with no additional details on time of death or how they will pass. The novel focuses on the "last-friends" Mateo and Rufus, as they spend their last day together in New York City. In a novel about grief, loss, free will, fate, seizing the day, and social media, young readers of Silvera's work embark on a hollowing journey about what one does when they know they have no more life to live. From Mateo (a shut-in, an aromantic loner), to Rufus (an orphan with a violent streak), the many characters in this story all deal with their own death or the death of others. coming to understand how loss changes one fundamentally. All packaged in a queer romance between the two Last Friends Mateo and Rufus, "They Both Die at the End", doesn't pull any punches in creating an often brutal, yet tragic-and-beautiful love story about two young men learning to seize their final day alive together.
Why "They Both Die at the End"?
At the school I currently teach at, this book is read in 10th grade English class. One day when I was subbing we listened to some passages on audiobook, and I was struck with the power in teaching both a queer love story and a novel so centered around grief in a general education classroom. This book has become absurdly popular: hundreds of copies on shelves at Barnes and Noble, and even a Netflix series on the way. As I read this story, I was touched again and again by how this novel treats hardship with tenderness and love. I can see why we teach this book at my school; this novel is written in a way that's both relatable and understandable by students, however always fulfilling its promise: death regardless of how ones lives. This novel feels like a realistic-dystopia, the only change to the world being Deathcast. The characters all use real social media cites, live relatively normal lives, and cope with grief and loss in realistic ways. Yes, the main romance is between two boys (the rough-around-the-edges Rufus more openly queer than Mateo), however their tragic romance is not the main focus-- their eventual death is. This novel humanizes its characters without focusing too much on their sexuality. The world of this novel is close enough to realism that students can easily relate, yet still allowing for analysis of free will, fate, and the entropy of death.
Teaching Considerations
I think it's smart of my school to teach "They Both Die at the End" as a whole-class novel, as its themes of both LGBT sexuality and loss giving several entry points for relatability for students. However, I think Silvera's work would also be a great addition to a Book Club unit. This novel would be a great fit in a unit on fate/free-will, coming-of-age, or a unit on the romance genre. Something also noteworthy is the plot and structure of all the first person narratives. Each story connects in some way, even if the character narrating is only seen briefly. The plot may function around Mateo and Rufus, but the world of Deathcast is explored indirectly by every narration. This novel would be a great fit for both individual study, and whole group study, for students in the 9th-10th grade. Its an accessible and powerful read, with enough substance to be dug into by a class, even if a lot of the language used in the novel lacks complex metaphor and deep subtext.
` Sections to Read Aloud
- The Plutos 6:33 PM (Pages 333-334)
- "Entire lives aren't lessons, but there are lessons in lives".
- Maeto 5:48 PM (Pages 320-324)
- “I cannot tell you how you will survive without me. I cannot tell you how to mourn me. I cannot convince you to not feel guilty if you forget the anniversary of my death, or if you realize days or weeks or months have gone by without thinking about me. I just want you to live.”
- Mateo 3:14 AM (Pages 72-79)
- "But no matter what choices we make - solo or together - our finish line remains the same … No matter how we choose to live, we both die at the end.”
Overall Thoughts
While this novel isn't perfect, it's a great look into grief for young queer kids. There are moments that made me cringe, from forced slang used by Rufus to pretty basic authorial-voice. I do think there is solace in this novel for kids who are struggling with difficult adult issues. This novel reminds me of Romeo and Juliet, where the dramatic actions of our doomed-lovers might not always be realistic, but instead serve as a vehicle for young adult readers to consider how free will and fate are intertwined. I understand the purpose of this novel, and there is power in how it would deliver its message to the right group of young readers. I think queer kids, who statistically will face more death and loss in LGBT communities than their cis/heterosexual classmates, would find solace in this story and its message about finding love, even if that love may only last a day. This novel is a brave conceptual choice to teach in a classroom: death is portrayed as sudden and tragic, the effects of loss lasting a lifetime. Where this novel comes up short can be easily overlooked by how it would encourage young readers to think about how they live their lives and how they deal with loss.
Future Explorations
A part of me wants to read this books prequel, "The First to Die at the End" and would watch the Netflix series if it comes out. I enjoyed how Silvera constructed an intertwining story a lot, and found this novel a breath of fresh air in a genre saturated with dystopia-focused YA literature. In the future, I am excited to read more LGBT YA literature and see how queerness is used as a characterization method. I liked how in "They Both Die at the End" the characters were queer, and they fall in love, however this was not the absolute center of the narrative. I think I still groan a bit when thinking about how much science fiction I will read as I continue through the YA genre, but I enjoyed this book enough to not be discouraged as I read more stories thematically like this one.

